Don’t gain weight this holiday season- no dieting necessary

Food cravings are abound:  here are some tips so that you don’t have to gain weight over the holidays…

Do you ever wonder why so many people have food cravings? Doesn’t it seem like more and more, people are addicted to sugar? Some to carbs? And yet, a large majority of America is obese and so many try desperately to lose weight, yo-yo dieting with this diet and that diet, promised to lose an X number of pounds only to gain it back.


What’s missing?

I believe that something must be missing if all these diets are so different and yet none of them really work to help people lose weight and keep it off. So, I started searching. Digging deeper. And over the past 15 or so years that I’ve been working with people, I have landed upon something.

I believe that our food cravings are a mis-read signal by our brains, from our body wisdom that’s trying to tell us something. Our body feels a sensation… and that sensation is of a “need” — a deep need for one of the basic human necessities.

According to Anthony Robbins, we humans have six essential needs: variety, significance, certainty, connection/love, growth, and contribution. How interesting that we also have six common food cravings… sugar, spice, salt, carbs, meat, and sour. Of course, some people may crave some tastes over others— that’s just what makes us unique.

I believe that each flavor actually relates to one of the six basic human needs. Please note: this may vary slightly for person to person, based on your childhood patterning, but in general… think back to when you were a child. Weren’t you given sugar in some form when you were being loved? For example, if you did good on a test, you may have gotten candy, and if it was your birthday, probably your favorite cake. Again and again, the love pathway in the brain was reinforced by sugar.


Sugar is the “sweetness of life” — i.e. tries to fulfill the basic human need for love. When ever you need more love (self-love or otherwise) or you need self-care (which is just another form of self-love), your body gives the signal of “love desired” and your brain interprets that signal as “need sugar” and you fulfill on that desire by eating your favorite sweet thing. But, the down side of this is you reinforce that same love-sugar pathway, only to continue having random cravings for sugar. The only way to really break that pathway and create a new pattern is to fulfill the deeper need for love and connection. The next time you have a sugar craving, ask your body what it needs— a hug? time with a good friend? cuddle time with your partner? a hot bath with some lavender scented candles? If you really fulfill the deeper desire, your sugar-craving will disappear, unlikely to come back with the normal frequency… because, well, you just got right to the heart of the matter. Your body needed love and connection and it got love and connection, in whatever form suited you best. Mission complete! Your body is happy, your brain is happy, and… you just created a new love pathway that is based on authentic knowing of yourself. 

Now that you know this, any wonder that we crave sugar during the holidays? We’re stressed out and have such little time to ourselves, sugar feels like a natural thing to help that loneliness— sometimes in the midst of great company. That loneliness is often exaggerated for couples going through infertility… it’s challenging to go through it when your family doesn’t understand what you’re going through. And, friends keep asking when you’re having a baby. If they only knew!

The next time you feel lonely amidst your friends and family, or you feel unloved or not enough, look deeper at some ways that you can express love to yourself — and see if that craving for sugar lasts! Likely, you’ll be through the sugar craving so fast, you won’t even have time to think of pie. And, likely, if you’re amidst people and have so many cakes to choose from and you can’t think very well, you can take a breath and see what your need is… and how it may best be fulfilled without eating that pie in front of you.

Stay tuned for the other tastes and needs connections coming soon…

In the meantime, do you need some support this holiday season? I suggest checking out Infertility Busters TeleSummit. I’m one of the 22 experts on the panel and I have to say, I am very happy with the depth and breadth of information shared in my “Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy” talk alone– and, I’m sure all the other experts are wonderful also. Check it out.  The Infertility Busters TeleSummit will happen from Dec 9-18th. I look forward to seeing you there!

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Top 5 Ways to Preserve Your Fertility Naturally: Alternatives to Egg Freezing


To Freeze or Not To Freeze?


 With all the buzz about tech companies paying to freeze eggs for career-focused women that want to ‘wait,’ there are a lot of women that are upset, and a lot of women that are happy. Really, I believe women should have a CHOICE about when to have a child. And, they deserve not to be judged if they shall choose to wait till later in life to have a child.

Before I go into this more, I want to say that there are some serious cases in which egg freezing is a helpful technological innovation. If a woman is about to undergo chemotherapy, or is coming from a lineage in which all the women go into early menopause, I would say egg freezing is a grateful option.

But if your amazing company like Facebook or Google isn’t paying for it, egg freezing will cost about $10K for the initial harvesting of eggs, and another $1k every year you want to keep them frozen!
And, honestly, there is a fair bit of data suggesting that these frozen eggs are just as good as in the body.

The Cost of Egg Freezing


 The little-talked-about underbelly of choosing this route, however, is that the only way to use these eggs that you have frozen is to do in-vitro fertilization. So, are you ready for another investment of $15K?
Financial costs aside, the cost to your body for egg freezing is yet to be determined.
Mostly, there are no serious immediate repercussions, but the long-term studies are lacking.
We do know, though, that during this process, your body will be exposed to lots of exogenous hormones which are meant to unnaturally stimulate the production, maturation, and release of multiple egg follicles in one cycle so that they can be harvested. Is this worthwhile? Or is there another less invasive option?
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Natural Alternatives to Egg Freezing


I believe that the natural approaches that help to preserve fertility are actually the same things that will help you keep looking young and gorgeous, and keep you healthy for many many years to come.


These are my top 5 suggestions:


1) Detoxify your body, with a fertility focused cleanse if possible – at least twice a year. I recommend in the Spring and Fall which follow the normal rhythms and patterns of the universe.
2) Stay away from plastics. The xenoestrogens that go into the body affect your hormones significantly. They are found in water bottles, aluminum cans, and plastic bags. Also BPA – shown to affect fertility – is highest in cash register receipts! So, avoid those things, at the very least.
3) Avoid GMOs like the plague. Though the research is lacking (because it’s actually unethical to conduct such studies), seeds that are modified to self-terminate are likely to have a similar effect on your reproduction.
4) Avoid smoking and alcohol. There’s plenty of research that suggests that both of these decrease fertility – in men and women.
5) Hydrate. This may sound simple but we really need enough water to keep balance and rhythm in the body. Dehydration, like starvation, is a major stressor for the body, and as we all well know, stress decreases fertility.


These are great tips for anyone wanting to improve their fertility naturally. But in order to take a look at your specific case, a consultation with me would really be needed.


If you are experiencing concerns or stress about your fertility now or later, I invite you to sign up for a complimentary Fertility Discovery Session with me where we can go deeper into looking at your unique health and fertility matrix.



And if this article is interesting to you, share with your female friends who are also interested in preserving their fertility, or couples you know who may be trying to conceive!